To all the nice guys...
This is for that time she left dozens of urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours complaining two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner and even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it.
This is for that time she interrupted the best sleeping time you ever had in weeks just to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world and even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you wake up for two hours and helped her out anyways. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to her friends gathering where you knew nobody as she is really closed to you, shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” and even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.
The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due and I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed everywhere and what I have learned from talking to friends or collegues in my workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks.
Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete a** now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, insane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.
But if you are in love with that girl, please don’t ever give up your hope. Stay strong and keep showing your love towards her no matter what until she gives in. I know, because i’ve gone through shit…
